Or, as I describe it in my new book, EQ Applied, emotional intelligence is the ability to make emotions work for you, instead of against you.
But while the term emotional intelligence may only be a few decades old, the concept behind it certainly isn’t. In fact, for centuries religious and political leaders, philosophers, and scientists have advised others to consider how emotions affect behavior.
For example, just consider the following 13 quotes:
- “Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”
–the Bible (James 1:19, King James Version)
- “Care for your psyche…know thyself, for once we know ourselves, we may learn how to care for ourselves.”
- “Happiness depends upon ourselves.”
- “Treat your men as you would your own beloved sons. And they will follow you into the deepest valley.”
- “When anger rises, think of the consequences.”
- “One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.”
- “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
- “Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.”
- “When a man is prey to his emotions, he is not his own master.”
- “It is just as valuable to be censured by friends as it is splendid to be praised by enemies. We desire praise from those who do not know us, but from friends we want the truth.”
- “What worries you, masters you.”
- “There is no other way to guard yourself against flattery than by making men understand that telling you the truth will not offend you.”
- “The most important decision you make is to be in a good mood.”
Emotional understanding, emotional ability, emotional intelligence, EQ–call it what you want, the fact remains the same:
The ability to understand and manage emotions effectively is a crucial skill that can help you navigate life successfully…
And its value has been recognized for a very, very long time.
Published on: Nov 1, 2018